Why do some people treat the people who like them like shit?

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So, if you're settling for someone's poor treatment or halfway efforts, you're silently telling them, Thank you. That time, I didn't off to give him a sacrifices up that I was low to let May address, I service did.

After a couple of weeks of good behaviour - my husband is at it again. The best way to let a guy know he cannot treat you badly is to walk away. The other night when I brought it up to him he said, verbatim, I think I want those things, I just don't know when. Consistency is a key for you to even consider being with someone.

Why He Treats You the Way He Does

Why does he treat me so badly. Tagged as:Question - 10 February 2008 18 Answers - Newest, 20 December 2009 A female age 26-29, anonymous writes: My boyfriend has been treating me really bad and I don't know how to tell him how he's been treating me because whenever I try to tell him he gets mad. He never wants to talk unless we're having sex. If we're not having sex and I try to talk to him then he gets mad and tells me it's over so I shut up and leave him alone, because that's what he tells me to do. I do love him, and he says that he loves me but why does he treat me so badly. Can anyone try and help me out. I have been having the same problem lately. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost two years and lately for the past 6 months something has changed him. Now I love him very very much but I do not stand for that stupid shit. It is not fair for them to treat us like that and I dont believe we should take it. When my boyfriend gets in his little bitchy moods I call him on it and tell him that its not right with how hes treating me. Why did he treat me so bad is no reason or excuse for him to treat you like that. If he really truly loves you then when you ask him or confront him on how hes acting and he sais its over then fuck him and agree. Tell him if he doesnt treat you with the respect you deserve then it should be over. Obviously if hes not treating you well then he cant love you that much. Cause I know if someone truly loves you enough they will do anything for you. Go to the end of the earth and back and in this case your boyfriend seems like an ass and is only nice to you when he wants something. So please dont hide from your feelings, let them show, let them be known. Dont let him be mean to you and act like a dick unless hes getting something out of it. You know you deserve the best. There are men, friends of yours perhaps, that would gladly help you get out of the situation. These are the people you should be with. You can do better than that, no matter what he has said to you. No matter how many times he has hurt you. No matter what he has done to you. You are still a woman with her own gifts, talents, beauty, and worth. You have why did he treat me so bad right to be happy. A female reader,writes 21 July 2009 : i know how you feel, im only fifteen and my boyfriend is ever only interested in the tele or poker. A female reader, anonymous, writes 6 May 2008 : this sounds like me and my boyfriend it really does suck im so scared i am going to lose him so i do what he says and he always seems to get angry at me. If he has not changed yet he will never. He is in control of his actions and he is controlling you through his actions and your response to his treatment of you. Ask yourself 1 Do you feel safe, 2 Do you feel that you can talk to him about anything and he will listen. If you answered no to one or more of these questions he will not change. A female reader,writes 12 February 2008 : He is only nice to you when you are having sex- user and control freak. There are many forms of domestic violence. Physical ie hitting, pushing, kicking, biting, throwing you or objects at you, choking,damaging your property anything from phones to furniture ie your contact with the outside world. Emotional ie name calling, putdowns. Financial ie withholding money from you, telling you how and what to spend your money on, spending your money by controlling access to your account,leaving you with debts for things only he benefits from. Sexual ie any unwanted forced sexual acts that you do not wish to do. Spiritual ie condemming you for having your faith, refusing you to practise your faith or admonishing you for not having his faith. Social ie isolating you from your friends and family, constantly acusing you of having affairs, becoming possessive of you and scrutinising all contact with people. Telling you what to wear and choosing your clothing for you. Monitoring and checking your emails, text messages, phone records etc. The cycle of violence has these stages Honeymoon or buy back phase, Intimidation,Explosion ie the arguement, The Sorry Phase and back to the honeymoon and we go round and round and round the cycle. You are young you deserve better. Leave him before you have kids with him. A reader, anonymous, writes 11 February 2008 : This is verified as being by the original why did he treat me so bad of the question Maybe we can help eachother out. Maybe you need to pack your stuff and when he sees you doing so maybe he'll straighten up. It's hard and I've been crying for weeks on end and no body really cares, I now have no place to go because my family kicked me out and he doesnt even care. Its hard to leave someone you love so much, but yes I can see whats going on now, but i never did anything wrong to him it was always that I had to please him and respect him but I would get nothing back in return. Sexual gratification is probably true. A male reader,writes 11 February 2008 : You might love him however he's demonstrating no love to you. He sounds mean, controlliny and nasty. The only reason I can think of why he is treating you so badly is because he's not a very nice person. A female reader, anonymous, writes 10 February 2008 : maybe you and i can help each other. Im in exactly the same position. Whenever i do anything nice, there is always something wrong or i didnt get it right. He is so quick to point out my flaws. Whenever i try to talk to him about how i feel he calls me drama, his nickname for me. His approach to sex is turn over, and he whispers all the sweet stuff in my ear, but as soon as its over, then its back to normal. But lately he doesnt want to have sex with me at all. But i cant talk to him because he just shoots me down. I have to hide my emotions by going to the bathroom and crying my eyes out because i get in trouble if i do it in front of him. I know that i deserve better than him, an so do you, but how do you leave someone that you love so much. Maybe we both just need to bite the bullet and move on. A female reader,writes 10 February 2008 : I can't believe any person in this day and age would want to be with a nasty,selfish and uncaring pathetic creature. Do yourself a favour and dump this horrible pondlife and find a decent caring guy who deserves your love and attention. The reason why he treats you so badly is because he knows he can get away with treating you like a piece of garbage if you let him. Guys like him does not deserve nice young lady like you and you can do so much better for yourself too. A male reader,writes 10 February 2008 : Are you a smart strong minded woman. If so, then what you need to do is to say. You don't need a man like this or need to be in a relationship like this. I would not even give him a second chance. Go on and find you someone who would appreciate you for you an dnot just for sex. A male reader,writes 10 February 2008 : Yep, I agree with the boys. He's a controlling type who is with you just for the sex. He doesn't need to be told he's mistreating you, because that he knows already. He will continue this way for as long as you let him. I think you should leave him and find someone who will truly love you. A male reader,writes 10 February 2008 : I dont think he loves you at all; sorry but it just sounds like he is in it for the sex. He's just telling you he loves you to keep the sex which he probably does love. He is not respecting you as a human being with feelings at all, if he did he would want to and would carry why did he treat me so bad a normal conversation with you which he appears unable to do. I know that you love this guy and you want him to feel the same way but you have to judge him by his actions and from what you write here that isn't looking good. I think you need to move on and find somebody who will treat you better.

As much as you want him to pay, to suffer for what he's done to you, what happens to him is his and not yours to carry. It became to a point I wanted to know if this guy is a player or does he really love me. From September 2013 till February 2014 this guy has shown you a consistent pattern. It is possible to improve the situation. He even told me I didn't give him enough space to miss me. Perhaps he is a recovering Nice Guy tm , who talked to friends, read books, whatever, and figured out that many women seem to be attracted by men who act like jerks. Your post history is confusing and doesn't stack up.